Dean, a long time and dedicated mission volunteer and I finished our delivery on the south side.
I got him home - he had plans to take his bride out for the evening - he was pretty excited for his wife who is a huge fan - going to see a Canadian icon who was in town for a show. I went alone to get the resupply for our very last delivery for the year - that will happen tomorrow evening.
I’ve been feeling really good about the mission lately and what we have been doing and what we have accomplished this year.
There was no water at our usual supplier today, so I started looking elsewhere.
The fourth store I went to had what we needed. I loaded 18 cases of bottled water onto a rolling cart and started making my way through the store.
I was wearing my I Was Thirsty hat and fluorescent safety vest. It has previously caused conversations to start. A man stopped me and, quite reasonably, asked what I was doing with all the water. For certain, 18 cases on one cart is an unusual sight.
I told him about I Was Thirsty - what our mission was about and that we had been going into the encampments every day over the summer delivering water to people who were living there. Tomorrow was our last day.
His response really surprised me.
He told me he resented what I was doing.
His words were snappy and he didn’t hold back. He said that ordinary people had to spend their money and that resources were being wasted on “those people”.
I told him that I had been in the encampments every day and asked if he had ever been there.
He didn’t need to respond to my question.
He continued with his anger and his rant.
I simply told him that we all need water to live.
When we left the store, he turned left and I went right. As he walked away, he shouted:
“They should never have closed the psych hospital. They could use that place to house all those fuckers.”
I didn’t argue with him.
I simply said, “God bless you today, sir.”
And then I walked to my truck, pushing 500 pounds of water.
What stayed with me wasn’t really what he said. It was the anger behind it.
Where does that kind of anger toward homelessness, mental illness and addiction come from?
Perhaps it comes from frustration. Perhaps fear. Perhaps experiences I know nothing about. Perhaps he has been affected personally by homelessness or addiction. I don’t know. Perhaps it has hurt him.
What I do know is that it is very easy to form a hate-filled generalized opinion about people we don’t know, particularly when we don’t have to look them in the eye.
I’ve spent enough time in the encampments know to know that the people there are not a “category” of people.
They are simply, people.
And regardless of why someone is homeless, struggling with addiction, living with mental illness, or simply having fallen through the cracks, they still need water.
We all do.
Then something happened that I won’t forget.
I got to my truck and started loading the water.
A man wearing a local car dealership shirt walked over.
He saw what I was doing and started picking up cases.
“It goes a lot faster with two,” he said.
His name was Gary.
There were 18 cases - about 500 pounds of water - and together we loaded them into the truck in what seemed like no time.
Gary overheard the entire exchange. He didn’t give me a speech.
He didn’t ask whether the people receiving the water deserved it.
He didn’t ask what their choices had been.
He saw someone doing a job and decided to help.
Two encounters.
One filled with anger.
One filled with kindness.
Both happened in the same parking lot, on the same day, just moments apart, in the same community.
I don’t know what happened in that first man’s life to make him so angry.
And I don’t know what happened in Gary’s life to make him stop and help a stranger.
But I do know this:
We can’t solve homelessness, mental illness or addiction by deciding that some people are no longer worthy of basic human necessities. Some of us are just lucky in our life decisions, our physiology and our past. Others have a different history.
Sometimes the first thing we can do is much simpler.
Give someone a bottle of water.
And sometimes, even when we’re lucky, someone just gives us a hand carrying it.